Category Archives: Socialization

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Friday Night Fun for Teens!

Come and hang out with us! Every first Friday of the month we meet in Costa Mesa for a different activity. If you’re between the ages of 14 and 19, this is the place for you!

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Autism Resource Mom’s ‪#‎Hangout‬ FRIDAY NIGHT FUN FOR TEENS offers teens an opportunity and the encouragement to break the pattern of reclusiveness and dare to overcome their social anxieties in a safe, nurturing and fun environment.

 

CLE-logoThanks to College Living Experience (CLE)-Costa Mesa for helping to make this possible.

Join us on Friday, Feb. 5! To RSVP, click here: http://www.meetup.com/www-autismresourcemom-org/

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Social Activities in 2016!

social activPlease tell us what kinds of social activities you’d like us to schedule for your tweens, teens and young adults. Take a few moments to complete our Social Activities Survey for 2016. Thanks a bunch!

Ain’t it good to know that you’ve got a friend?

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Friendship is a topic many parents with kids on the autism spectrum deal with on a daily basis. And, in most cases, we know it’s not too many friends or even the “wrong” friends. More often than not it’s simply “my kids don’t have friends.” Or “they can’t keep friends.” If the definition of a friend is someone who calls or texts our kids, hangs out with our kids, wants to spend their free time with our kids … well, honestly, how many true friends do our kids have?

Yes, friendship is a sore topic.

I had a best friend when I was growing up. I could count on her to be there for me. Always. We did everything together. We rode bikes. We went to the store. We walked to and from school and ate lunch together. You know the routine. And we even fought with each other. But we always made nice again. In 10th grade she let me borrow her Elton John “Goodbye Yellow Brick Road” album which I listened to non-stop. She even loaned me her navy pinwale corduroy Levis which I absolutely loved [and my mom wouldn’t buy for me].

Selfishly, I wish my kid could experience that same bonding. But I have to be mindful of the fact that just because it made me happy to have that friendship, my son might not necessarily have that same need. But still …

Fortunately, parents can learn how to help their kids make and keep friends from an expert at the upcoming ARM Parenting & Sharing Workshop on Tuesday, March 24, 2015. Click here to register.

Teens and Social Media | Child Mind Institute

This is very intriguing.

Teens and Social Media | Child Mind Institute.

10 Ways to Prepare Your Child for Independent Life After High School | SKILL #5

SKILL #5
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INDEPENDENT LIVING SKILLS
We continue our discussion of independent living skills with the fifth item—the ability to go places on their own. Sure, they may need our chauffeuring services for a while, but the goal is for them to make this happen without us.
I remember going bowling with my son when he was little. Then taking him to the bowling alley and watching while he bowled with friends. Eventually I was able to drop him off at the door. Of course, this doesn’t happen overnight—in some cases it’ll take years until the child is ready to be cut loose–but plenty of preparation results in lasting benefits.
 
SKILL #5 – Teach your child to go places independently.
 
Certainly we don’t want our child to be afraid of exploring his or her own community. Starting when they’re young makes it easier so you can build on mastered skills. Gradually you’ll want to extend the distances. Trust me, your child will be ready for this far before you will be!
 
Child:             Get the mail, walk to a neighbor’s
                      house, etc.
Pre-teen:        Walk to and from school, a friend’s
                      house, park, library, post office, rec
                      center, etc.
Teen:             Learn how to use public
                      transportation
                            – Be familiar with routes and
                               schedules
                            – Know what the fare is and how
                               to pay it
                            – Know how to buy a pass and
                               request/use a transfer
                       Walk to a nearby store, library,
                       restaurant, cinema, after-school  
                       event.
The ultimate goal is to create a comfort zone of mobility within the community for your child. Starting early will set you both on the path to success.

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The self-reliant individual is a self-confident person. For more strategy ideas, contact me today at Debora@autismresourcemom.com.

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Holiday Tip #10 for Parents of Children with Autism

It’s 3 days to Christmas and the kids are getting antsy. “Outside to play now!” and no one dresses fancy.
Dec. 22            Day 10   Sensory Overload.
The sights, sounds, smells and activities of Christmas are comforting to some, and menacing to others. Be mindful of that as you enter different environments. To help regulate all this, make exercise part of your daily schedule. Nothing is more cleansing. A family hike, bike ride or jog each day in warmer climes—sledding, skiing or making a snowman, in colder climes—will do wonders to help keep things in balance.
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IT’S BEGINNING TO LOOK A LOT LIKE CHRISTMAS!
 
As the mother of a son with autism, I’ve committed myself over the years to learning, understanding and sharing the most effective ways to nurture, protect and prepare a child with autism. Strategies with the potential to reap great rewards for our kids. Strategies for the holiday season and beyond, which I’ll gladly share with you.
And right now I’m offering speaking engagements to parent groups, educators, autism support groups, government agencies and community organizations. 

Reserve your booking by calling 714-501-8735.
The talk is free. The information is priceless.

CARPOOLING: A socialization strategy

Carpooling is an easy way to help your child to foster relationships. It’s not like we live close to any classmates, but that’s not even the point. I’d gladly drive out of my way to take someone home in order to see my son walking out of school with a buddy, instead of alone. Engaging with that kid. Goofing with him/her. I could very easily pick them up right at the school gate, but I don’t. I make them walk a distance, with all the other kids. I see it as an “equalizer” of sorts. He’s walking home with a friend, just like everyone else. Plus, that is valuable social time. Same goes for the drive home. When I’m driving my son and his band buddies, there is constant chatter, constant horsing around, constant boys being silly. I love it.

The other day I was panicking, running late for an appointment, but when I saw my son walking down the street with his pal, I stopped stressing and gladly made the extra stop to take his friend home. My son is worth it.

I offer to drive my son’s friends home, but they have to walk to a certain street corner first. I force “social time” upon my son in this way. We both love the results!