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A New Year and A Fresh Start | 2015 ROUNDTABLE SCHEDULE!



Toss out the strategies that haven’t worked for the past few years. And I mean toss them. If you’ve seen no improvements or even changes, you obviously need some new techniques.

Be flexible enough to try something new. We always ask our kids to be flexible. Now I’m asking you to try the same.  rubber-band

Something else to help jump-start your new year is to connect, or simply re-connect with others. Our HEART-TO-HEART WITH MOM roundtable discussions provide the perfect opportunity for this!


2015 Heart-to-Heart Schedule:

All Thursday discussions are held at Temple Beth Sholom in Santa Ana from 7-8:30 pm.













RSVP to debora@autismresourcemom.com

Here’s to a New Year filled with exciting possibilities! Cheers!


4098_ARM_Heart2HeartHeader5A few seats remain for tomorrow evening’s A HEART-TO-HEART WITH MOM. If you’d like a place at the table, RSVP now.
Thursday, Dec. 11 from 7-8:30pm
Temple Beth Sholom, 2625 N. Tustin Ave., Santa Ana, CA 92705
RSVP to debora@autismresourcemom.com

HOLIDAY TIP | Have a Back-up Plan


Escape-PlanThe holiday season abounds with new sounds, unfamiliar faces and different schedules and if you don’t yet have a plan in place for your child, there’s still time.

When it all becomes too much—too many people, too much noise, too much that’s unknown—having a ‘plan of escape’ to a place to self-regulate is always wise. With one or two back-up plans, at least you have options. Practice a non-verbal hand signal your kid can give you to show you he needs to leave, instead of shouting at the top of his lungs, “It’s time for everyone to go home now! We’re done!”

Often, just knowing that it’s okay to escape to a quiet place is enough.

Lots of great services and opportunities here in Orange County, CA!

If you have a high school student with Autism Spectrum Disorder [ASD], a local organization has a fabulous monthly activity for your teen. The Orange County Asperger’s Support Group [OCASG] and College Living Experience-Costa Mesa have teamed up for TEEN NIGHT on the first Friday of each month. Activities change each month but it’s a fun time for the kids to hang out with teens–along with college-age mentors. It’s a big hit.  

The idea is to get kids out of their room, out of the house and integrating with others in the community and that’s exactly what’s being done with this group. Determine what your teen is interested in and help him/her get involved.

This article gives you an idea of the variety of other service organizations that exist here in the OC.


I Can’t Say I Always Listened to My Mother, But I Did When it Mattered.

I remember when we first got the “A” diagnosis for our son and the emotional toll it took on me. Heartache. Heartbreak. And pure fear coupled with utter helplessness. As I was trying to come to grips with the whirlwind of feelings, my mom was the voice of reason who stepped in and saved me. 

When I came home with the results from countless assessments and evaluations results that were always depressing–I just wanted to crawl in a hole and hide. But it was my mom, parenting me from 2,300 miles away, who brought me to my senses.

“Forget about the label,” she wisely advised. “It doesn’t matter what they call it. Just get him what he needs.” 

“But mom,” I’d wail, “you don’t understand, they say he’s autistic!”

“If his leg was broken, you’d put him in a cast. If he had tonsillitis, you’d have his tonsils removed. So find out what he needs, and get it for him.” 

How could I argue with that? 

As I set about to find out what my boy needed and how to get it for him, I focused less on myself and more on him. We had our ups and downs (as we still do), but at least I was in a more positive and hopeful state of mind. In fact, I’ve learned over the years to laugh about much of our journey. It sure is preferable to weeping!

So on this Mother’s Day I want to thank my mom for helping me to be a better mom for my son. And for all you moms out there who need a good laugh, I want to share this. It’s priceless. Enjoy! 

Here’s wishing a hilarious Mother’s Day to you all.


Debora, The Autism Resource Mom


Autism Town Hall Meeting on Friday, May 2

For Orange County, California residents. Save the date!


No Diet This Morning — I’m Celebrating

Last night was Report Card Night at school and I’m celebrating. The year began with a D in chemistry. But now he’s at a B+.

Bravo to Vincent, our fabulous tutor from Tutor Doctor. Bravo to Mr. B, my son’s chemistry teacher at school. But the biggest cheers to my son for toughing it out. Trying and applying himself, in a subject that he really has no passion for. Bravo, big guy, bravo.


I’m celebrating my son’s 3.86 GPA! Yum!

Chewing on ICE [Integrated Competitive Employment]

Click to access 553901.pdf

Individuals with autism spectrum disorder [ASD] have the same right to work at a job that pays them minimum wage or more, in a place that has people with and without
ASD working together, and provides opportunities to earn raises and promotions, just the same as individuals without ASD.   

If you have any question about this, contact the DRC at http://www.disabilityrightsca.org/


College Support & Employment Resource: WE CONNECT NOW

I just discovered a wonderful resource:  http://weconnectnow.wordpress.com/

We Connect focuses on higher education and employment issues. It was founded in 2008 by Gabriela McCall Delgado.

It’s truly a great support for college students with challenges. Please do yourself and/or your college-age child a favor and check it out!


WE CONNECT NOW supports college students — and deals with higher education and employment issues.


TIP OF THE WEEK: Group Projects

GROUP PROJECTS: A Strategy for Success

Group Projects are tough in middle and high school. There are so many steps to this seemingly simple thing. Maybe simple for NTs—but it can be a dreadful nightmare for students with autism spectrum disorders. Some classmates don’t want to be “stuck” with our kids in their group. So our kids have to work that much harder. I’ve put together a 5-step template for my son to use to help guide him through the process.

GROUP ACCEPTANCE. First of all, a group has to be willing to accept your child. Sometimes teachers assign groups. This is easier for our kids. Then the biggest hurdles are the last four steps. But if the class is told to form groups of 3 or 4—and our kids are left to their own devices—usually they just don’t do anything. I make sure my son’s teachers are aware of this fact and they’ve been kind enough to step in if they see him struggling.

ROLE – WHAT IS MY CHILD’S ROLE? Your child must determine his contribution. It’s important to understand the scope of the job so your child’s group members learn they can rely on him to come through.

OPT for HOW TO STAY IN CONTACT. By text, phone or email, he needs to stay in contact with all members of group. And share his contact info, as well.

UNITE. If the group meets off-site, your child must meet with them, too.

PARTICIPATION. Your child’s grade depends on it.

Good luck!

Here's a 5-step process to successfully navigating a group project.
Here’s a 5-step process to successfully navigating a group project.