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4098_ARM_Heart2HeartHeader5A few seats remain for tomorrow evening’s A HEART-TO-HEART WITH MOM. If you’d like a place at the table, RSVP now.
Thursday, Dec. 11 from 7-8:30pm
Temple Beth Sholom, 2625 N. Tustin Ave., Santa Ana, CA 92705
RSVP to debora@autismresourcemom.com

Can My Kid Really Succeed In College?


Last week we attended a Meet and Greet with a fabulous student panel at CLE Costa Mesa. CLE is College Living Experience [http://experiencecle.com/]. OMG, those students sold the program, in my opinion. Hearing them talk about their experiences living on their own, with roommates, attending college, managing their time, their studies and everything else, well, it was an eye-opener.  

At first my son did not want to be there. “I’m very uncomfortable and we need to leave,” he whispered to me. I suggested he wait in the hall, because I was interested and wanted to stay. He couldn’t have been too uncomfortable, because he didn’t leave. And in fact, it wasn’t long before he was actually smiling about some of the remarks being made. Then one guy uttered a Kurt Cobain quote and my son was ready to sign up! A huge grin crossed his face, he leaned in and was totally engaged.

He kept thanking me for “letting him” go to the meeting. And he talked about it and the students for the next few days.

We haven’t applied yet, but we will for sure dig deeper. If you’re looking for a support program for your child who attends college, be sure to check out CLE. And if you have experience with a similar support program, please let us know!

10 Ways to Prepare Your Child for Independent Life After High School | SKILL #9

Teach Your Child Basic Rules for Living
When an individual picks up after himself, he shows the world he’s responsible. Period.
And let’s face it, whether he goes off to college and lives in the dorms with strangers or
gets a job and shares his workspace or lunch room with co-workers, they will expect him
to tidy up after himself because they sure as heck won’t. And at this point, no parent
can be waiting in the wings to save him.   Image
I came across this list years ago and I freely post it throughout the house. I like to think
it’s made a difference. I added #16 and #17. They’re my favorites. Or maybe they’re just
the ones I find myself barking the most!
1.       If you open it, CLOSE IT!
Image2.       If you turn it onTURN IT OFF!
3.       If you unlock it, LOCK IT!      Image
4.       If you break it, ADMIT IT and REPAIR IT!
5.       If you can’t fix it, CALL IN SOMEONE WHO CAN!
6.       If you borrow it, RETURN IT!
7.       If you use it, TAKE CARE OF IT!
Image8.       If you make a messCLEAN IT UP!
9.       If you move it, PUT IT BACK!
10.     If it belongs to someone else, GET PERMISSION TO USE IT!
11.     If you don’t know how to operate it, LEAVE IT ALONE!
12.     If it doesn’t concern youDON’T MESS WITH IT! Or, if it’s none of your business,DON’T ASK QUESTIONS!
13.     If it’s not brokenDON’T FIX IT!
14.     If it will brighten someone’s day, SAY IT!
15.     If it will tarnish someone’s reputation [or hurt someone’s feelings], KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!
16.     If you see something on the floorPICK IT UP!
17.     If you empty it, REFILL IT!    Image
~~ Author Unknown ~~
And, my friends, if all else fails, just set a good example
As the mother of a son with autism, I’ve committed myself over the years to learning, understanding and sharing the most effective ways to nurture, protect and prepare a child with autism. Strategies with the potential to reap great rewards for our kids. Strategies for transitions and more, which I’ll gladly share with you.
And right now I’m offering speaking engagements to parent groups, educators, autism support groups, government agencies and community organizations.
Call 714-501-8735. The talk is free. The information is priceless. 

If you’ve missed any of my earlier messages you can find them on my blog by clicking here. Follow me!

For more ideas, contact me today at Debora@autismresourcemom.com. Be sure to like ARM on Facebook.

SEEPAC Session Begins Jan. 29, 2013

Do you have a young child newly diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorders [ASDs]?

For OC Kids’ SEEPAC [Support, Education & Empowerment for Parents of Autistic Children] offers a 6-week program that begins Tuesday, Jan. 29 from 6-8pm.

Session topics include:

  • What is Autism?
  • Regional Center and Special Education programs
  • The ABC’s of Behavior
  • Speech & Language Interventions
  • Autism & Family Dynamics

Space is limited. Reservations required. Call 714-939-6766 or email ForOCKids@uci.edu.   Cost: $80 per family for all 6 sessions or $15 per week. Sliding scale rates are available for families needing financial aid. Call for info.

See attached flyers for more information. SEEPAC  Clases en espanol.

CARPOOLING: A socialization strategy

Carpooling is an easy way to help your child to foster relationships. It’s not like we live close to any classmates, but that’s not even the point. I’d gladly drive out of my way to take someone home in order to see my son walking out of school with a buddy, instead of alone. Engaging with that kid. Goofing with him/her. I could very easily pick them up right at the school gate, but I don’t. I make them walk a distance, with all the other kids. I see it as an “equalizer” of sorts. He’s walking home with a friend, just like everyone else. Plus, that is valuable social time. Same goes for the drive home. When I’m driving my son and his band buddies, there is constant chatter, constant horsing around, constant boys being silly. I love it.

The other day I was panicking, running late for an appointment, but when I saw my son walking down the street with his pal, I stopped stressing and gladly made the extra stop to take his friend home. My son is worth it.

I offer to drive my son’s friends home, but they have to walk to a certain street corner first. I force “social time” upon my son in this way. We both love the results!

Educational Session Starts Sept. 25 – For OC Kids

Do you have a young child newly diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorders [ASDs]?

For OC Kids’ SEEPAC [Support, Education & Empowerment for Parents of Autistic Children] offers a 6-week program that begins Tuesday, Sept. 25 from 6-8pm.

Session topics include:

  • What is Autism?
  • Regional Center and Special Education programs
  • The ABC’s of Behavior
  • Speech & Language Interventions
  • Autism & Family Dynamics

Space is limited. Reservations required. Call 714-939-6766 or email ForOCKids@uci.edu.   Cost: $80 per family for all 6 sessions or $15 per week.

See attached flyers for more information. SEEPAC  Clases en espanol.

What Are You Doing With Your Summer?

I enrolled my son in an enrichment class for the summer at Fusion Academy in Huntington Beach. The school’s specialty is one-to-one teaching, so I thought it would suit him just fine. Of course it’s a film criticism class and after his first two-hour session, he emerged smiling from ear to ear. “Mom, thanks so much for signing me up for this class!”

It’s not free and I wouldn’t say it’s inexpensive, but you get what you pay for. After just two sessions, he’s been talking about films in a whole new light–more in-depth, making comparisons and best of all, on the way to class this morning he talked about a movie he’d write and direct! <Plant the seed!>

At the same time, we signed him up for a Pro-Tools I Tracking Course with Paul Murphy of Hollywood Recording Workshop in Anaheim. Again, a one-to-one tutorial.

In my opinion, the best money we’ve spent to date on summer programs for our son.

Best of all, any class or course you enroll you child in imposes a discipline of routine.


ARM Tip of the Week

May 1, 2012

Visual supports can be instructive and entertaining when it comes to your child’s responsibilities around the house.

Allow flexibility in the way your child goes about doing these jobs. What’s important is the end result. So I don’t leave anything to chance. My favorite technique is the BEFORE & AFTER Method. I enjoy Before & After photos in magazines so I use the same technique with my son.

Since our ideas of a clean room [or whatever the duty is] may be different from those of our kids, it’s a good idea to visualize that for them.

No, thanks!

Take a photo of your child’s room in both states—messy and neat. Put both photos on a card or piece of paper. Write YES under the neat one, and NO under the messy one.

Then when it’s time to do that particular job, just hand him the visual support as a reminder of your expectations.


I’m presenting to the Parent Education Meeting at Anaheim City School District on April 25


On Wednesday, April 25, 2012, at 7 p.m. I’ll talk to parents in Anaheim about the importance of visual supports in the lives of children with autism spectrum disorders.  I will share easy, practical ideas for parents and educators, such as using visual prompts, schedules and much more! 

New numbers released today by CDC show an increase in prevalence of autism


Okay folks, gimme a drum roll, please. A new study that examined data from 14 communities puts estimates at one child in 88 diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder — and ups the prevalence in males to five times more than in females.

What is this, the magic tote board in the Jerry Lewis telethon?

This is very important information. As parents, we need to participate in surveys and studies that compile such research, so that the true extent of our need is realized throughout all channels. Our government needs to know the real state of affairs if they are to provide sufficient support,  services, education and research.

So the next time an autism study crosses your path, take some time to fill it out. Think of it as an investment in services for your child — rather than something that just eats up your time.

And remember that early detection is crucial. Nearly half [40%] of the kids in the CDC study weren’t diagnosed until they were older than four years of age. We can do so much for our kids when we can start treatments and therapies early. And our kids benefit from this early intervention. So there’s got to be some improvement in this area.

Pay close attention to your child’s development at six months, 12 months, 18 months. Don’t let your concerns go unaddressed.

Visit cdc.gov to learn more.