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Another Milestone: Graduation from PEERS. Bravo!

He did it! Our son made it through the 14-week PEERS program! He has the certificate of completion — as well as 14 lessons in making and keeping friends and handling challenging social situations. It’s a proud time.

I realize that for a while we’ll have to stay on him, constantly urging him to reach out to make friends because it’s natural for him to want to retreat and simply entertain himself without all the anxiety that accompanies socialization. But the more he gets used to it, the easier it will be.

A valuable part of our final session was that we parents were advised to regularly check in with our teen’s psychological state. We’re going to continue with cognitive behavioral therapy [CBT]—it’s something that has worked well with our son in the past; he’s familiar with the process. Most importantly, we want to make sure he’s not secluded, separated from others and that he regularly talks about things he’s thinking.

If you have any questions about the PEERS program, please ask.

Click the link below to watch a video of Liz Laugeson, director of UCLA PEERS, talk about the steps for slipping into a conversation. We have the notebook pages for this lesson, but my son find its extra helpful to see it acted out in real life situations. Body language is key in this lesson.

Wrong Planet – Autism Talk TV 23 – How to Join a Social Circle & Make Friends in a Group.

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Social Skills Training with our Eyes Wide Open!

We have enrolled in a PEERS® [Program for the Education and Enrichment of Relational Skills] course with our son. It’s a manualized, social skills training intervention program that I’ve been reading about and hearing about for several years now. I finally made the time to make it part of our lives for the next three-plus months.

http://www.semel.ucla.edu/peers

It’s a 14-week course for me, my husband and son—we’ve got 12 more sessions to go. Our son loves it! I really like the fact that we all have to be involved. It keeps everyone on the same page. We learn the same buzz words to use to avoid confusion and to help with skill mastery. There is a homework assignment each week. So far, the assignments have been somewhat within his comfort zone—but I know with each week it’ll be necessary for him to expand his own personal boundaries. I’m looking forward to watching that.

Over the course of the next few months, I’ll report in—hopefully with encouraging news.

[To find a Certified PEERS® Provider near you, please click here: FAQ.]

Learning how to be a friend, make a friend and keep a friend.

PEERS: Learning how to be a friend, make a friend and keep a friend.